Thursday, April 28, 2011

What Are You Reading Right Now?

So I’ve wanted to do a second top ten list since my inaugural post in November last year. I wanted to do a book list the first time around but I’ve been daunted by the task because I am such an avid reader (without the most discerning taste) that it was near to impossible for me to develop this list. I’m sure I have forgotten more books than I can count…so as you read please keep in mind that this was formulated from what came top of mind when I thought to myself “what books did I love reading?” Also, I am going strictly fiction on this one or it would get way to out of hand…hope you enjoy!
1)      Fugitive pieces – Anne Michaels
This book was given to me by my sister years and years ago…the first time I read it I was in high school and definitely not advanced enough for it. In fact I hated it the first time I read it. However something possessed me to reread it when I got to university and since then I can’t count how many times I’ve read this book. It is definitely my favourite book I’ve ever read and my favourite quote comes from it “make beauty necessary make necessity beautiful”.
It is about a young Jewish boy whose family is killed by Nazis and is taken in by a greek man who ultimately raises him. They eventually move to Toronto where he meets a woman and marries but has a hard time letting go of his past – it is a story of love, trauma and challenge and it is SO good, a definite must read!
   2)  Twilight series – Stephenie Meyer
I don’t really think anything needs to be said on this one – if you haven’t read it then you don’t understand. You can judge me openly or behind my back but I stand behind my decision. Potentially one of the best series I’ve ever read and certainly the best love story.
3)      Tara Road – Maeve Binchy
Maeve Binchy I would have to say is my favourite author as I’ve read, and enjoyed, every book of hers. She was introduced to me by my mother because she is an Irish author that my mom has always followed. Deciding which one of her books to put on my list was a challenge because I’ve loved so many of them; Tara Road was the first book of hers I ever read and started my love affair with her novels and so that is how I landed on this one.
Tara Road is about two women who exchange homes (something like the holiday – the Cameron Diaz movie) in an effort to escape personal crises and become lifelong friends. It is a story of how people are resilient and can build themselves back up from any devastation. It’s a great pick me up book if in need of a smile.
      4)      Anna Karenina – Leo Tolstoy
Anna Karenina was one of the hardest books I’ve ever read. It was exceptionally long, excruciatingly detailed and verbose and jam-packed with historical references. However, it is known as the greatest love story of all time and me being the sap that I am had to read it. I would explain it as being one of those books you would consider an investment. And it’s not until you close the back cover and finish it that you truly take something away from it. It’s not like a page turning can’t ever put it down kind of book – but it will make you think for weeks afterward and definitely challenge even the most advanced of readers.
5)      Of Mice and Men – John Steinbeck
Of Mice and Men is a book that was suggested to me by a friend that always reads very challenging and very thought provoking books. As can be told by my list of top ten, I usually read books for entertainment value and less often for their literary impact. However, I accepted the challenge of reading this one mainly because it was really short and I figured if it hated it at least it wouldn’t have been a huge time investment – but instead I absolutely loved it.
Like The Giver (below) it is a highly controversial and challenged novel and is read in many schools. It is about two men during the great depression who are forced to flee town based on rape charges and find themselves employment on a ranch where their situation doesn’t much improve. It is a devastating tale of friendship – and unlike most of the other books on this list, does not have a Hollywood ending.
     6)      LOTR trilogy (including the hobbit) – J.R.R. Tolkien
BEST TRILOGY EVER – nothing else needs to be said.
  7)      The Giver – Lois Lowry
The Giver was a book I read in elementary school that completely blew my mind.
Side note: It kind of reminds me of the movie with Carey Mulligan called Never Let Me Go which is amazing and everyone should watch it.
In the book children are assigned jobs based on personality tests and live out their lives based on everything being predetermined for them. It is supposed to show this way of life as utopian until the boy whose job it is to receive the memories of those from the past, before this was how the world worked, starts to wonder if there shouldn’t be more to life. This book is highly controversial and a lot of schools no longer permit it to be on the reading lists – however I have never forgotten it and have read it many times since Grade 7 and it still amazes me, so I would definitely encourage every kid to read it and every adult as well.
      8)      A Million Little Pieces – James Frey
So I know this book caught a lot of grief for being told as a memoir when he embellished a lot of the details for literary effect, but to that I say, who the hell cares? I LOVED this book. I think I read it in one day and stayed up all night because I couldn’t put it down. It was so tragic, so dark, so depressing and yet so uplifting and so hopeful at the same time. Real or fake I don’t care – I loved this book and James Frey is an amazing author that can write a serious page turner!
      9)      A Little Princess – Frances Hodgson Burnett
Again, this is a book from my childhood that I’ve read more times than I can count. It was given to me by my aunt and I think it was my first hard cover book. I remember building a little fort out of my covers, like the girl in the book does and reading beneath it.
It is a tragic story about loss – but shows the perseverance and will of what we will do to right our situations. Even as a little girl, she is able to find the best in the worst situation and eventually escape her challenges and live the life she deserves.
Side note: I think I have a theme here in the books I like – always people who suffer a tragedy and end up pulling through it.
10)   Lullabies for Little Criminals – Heather O’Neill
Lullabies for Little Criminals is one of those books that while you’re reading it you can’t help but to talk to everyone around you about the book you’re reading. Every time you turn the page you’re thinking, this can’t be happening, this can’t get any worse, oh my god how is this going on?!
I absolutely enjoyed every page of this story, it was so gut wrenching and depressing to see the challenges that such a young girl was going through and to realize that this is probably a lot of children’s realities around the world. The devastation of drugs and drug addiction is something that totally intrigues me, because I just can’t understand it – read this book, its amazing!!



P.S. To all those who suggested Inception be on my top ten movies…I’ve now watched it and yes I did really enjoy it but still it would not make the cut of fav movies.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

3 pieces of bread, 2 patties and the special sauce

My challenge for March – the third of the year – was certainly the most pre-planned and definitely my most nerve wracking challenge so far. I was somehow convinced that it would not only be entertaining, but maybe even fun, to voluntarily put the world’s worst poison into my body; and so on March 29th 2011 I ate a Big Mac.
Now this challenge posed such a great difficulty for me for a number of reasons:
1)      I haven’t eaten red meat (or really any meat except chicken) in almost a year – I came to terms with this one because I’m pretty sure whatever those patties are made of, they aren’t real meat anyways.
2)      I try to eat a pretty healthy menu on a regular basis – I convinced myself one Big Mac wouldn’t throw me off too much, plus it definitely can’t be any worse than the numerous poutines I eat on my way home from Parts and Labour every weekend – right?
3)      I NEVER finish an entire meal that is put in front of me, and part of this challenge was that I had to eat the entire burger, the fries and the drink. I did accomplish this, but let me just say that I moaned, groaned and b****ed for most of the evening about being full.
So what was the verdict of this incredibly demanding (mentally and physically) challenge – well…it wasn’t the worst thing I’ve ever eaten. Will I ever eat another? Absolutely not ever again. But that being said it really just tasted like pickles, which are one of my main food groups, so overall I was fairly pleasantly surprised.
April’s challenge, which I will obviously not be divulging just yet, is something that will shock most people that know me well. Of all so far, it will be the most expensive by far and has been months (if not years) in the planning…those of you who are joining me for this one, please don’t say anything until it’s been done! And again…I am TERRIBLY nervous for this one.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Punch Drunk Love

I recently sourced responses from many friends via facebook, twitter and email regarding their opinions on love at first sight. I wasn’t anticipating the level of replies that I got, so it seemed I struck a nerve with this topic and got really excited. What I got back were answers that I found both incredibly interesting, as well as surprising.


What spurned my desire to hear others’ beliefs on this topic was that I always steadfastly and almost even stubbornly refused to believe that love at first sight was possible – until I met someone that made me think otherwise. Albeit a fleeting affair in a very long life, this guy had me at hello. I walked around on cloud three hundred and thirty nine, thinking to myself could I actually be THIS lucky? Is this what all my heartbreak has been leading up to – cause if so then give me five more heartbreaks if I can feel this five times stronger! Where I was conflicted, was in my head I was thinking LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, but was it? Is that even possible? Or was it just excitement, infatuation, and the thrill of the new potential...here is what my friends had to say:
  •  I don’t think I agree with love at first sight. I think people sometimes think they’re in love at first sight, but really it’s just lust or attraction. In my mind “love” is entirely to do with getting to know someone, feeling connected to them on a deeper level, sharing an emotional bond – how is that possible immediately? I certainly believe there are some people you have an instantaneous attraction to – and by that I mean chemistry, not just a physical attraction – but I still differentiate that from love. I don’t know, I guess it’s entirely dependent upon your conception of what love is...
  • I think that point-blank asking whether or not someone believes in love at first sight makes the whole matter seem simpler and less nuanced than it actually is. Do I actually believe that I can lock eyes with someone from across a room and love them in that instant as deeply and meaningfully as I would after getting to know him (or her) for years? No. But I do believe that you can tell, in a glance, an impression, and/or initial conversation, whether or not that person is someone you could love...
  • In all honesty, you can’t love at first sight. Love means so much more – like quitting your job and moving. You wouldn’t do that after just seeing someone. But that’s why it’s a good topic, because there are people out there who would I guess.
  • Strong gut instinct only. I think real love comes after some element of chaos.
  • Lust, but not love. Love means that you have learned to accept each other’s differences and embrace each other’s faults. That itself takes time and time to grow with each other and learn.
  • Happened to me!
  • Absolutely! Rare but it happens
  • I was a victim
  • Love at first sight, no – but instant chemistry that can last a life time, yes
  • I suppose some might want to say it was "love at first sight" for non-romantic relationships, like their children at birth. That could possibly be the only true love at first sight.
  • I am not a hopeless romantic and probably the biggest realist (or as some say - pessimist) out there... but yes, I do believe in it... I think it sounds so cheesy and so impossible. And it may have been chance/coincidence that I met him and instantly knew, but whatever optimism there is in me says it was love at first sight...

From all that I took a step back to reconsider my position on love at first sight. What I truly think it is – which is echoed in a lot of the responses above although people may not actively think they believe this – is that YES it is possible. Why do I say this? How can I say this? Isn’t there so much more evidence against than for it?  Well...I look at it this way:
I think that you can meet someone, immediately connect, get excited about, have an attraction to and feel completely overwhelmed and infatuated with. The in-love feelings bloom instantly, is it the deep eternal love that we all think of when we hear that word? No it’s not – but that doesn’t mean it isn’t love. Love is not an on/off switch but more like a dimmer. It evolves changes and grows over time spent with someone. And for any pair, love may not mean the same thing. I think from the puppy love, the young love, and the new love – which most people deem lust, the love we have come to recognize grows. And I sincerely believe, that despite length of time with a person a true connection is a true connection – and that is what is truly rare and special, and it is something we should all be thankful for when and if we get there.